I suffer a great deal of hassle trying to deal with the insane amount of details that come along with being a programmer. Partly because I am really old, I cannot remember a single thing but really, I have not been able to ever remember details. I have long developed practices to accommodate this weakness.
I started by using BASH aliases to remember various commands. I still have a couple of aliases from fifteen years ago for lsof, a command I use rarely and can never remember how to work. Later, I got the idea of having an alias (initProjA) always present in my shell for each project that executed a script, initDevTerminal, that was in a management directory I kept in every project. This script created aliases and also showed notes for things I might forget. EG, I keep a project for my computer that just tells me where the NGINX config files are located since I can never remember.
For real projects, the initDevTerminal script generates aliases that initialize or execute tests, copy code to production servers, execute the toolchain, start and stop things, whatever is needed. Some projects have a dozen entries. Some fewer. One longstanding and stupidly complicated one actually has pages for the various subsections. The script also initializes environment variables if needed and, in some cases, swaps out launchctl or systemctl jobs. The important thing is that most of the complicated commands are put into aliases or listed as notes when 'initProjA' is executed on the command line for easy reference.
I also manage applications on various client servers. For a long time, I would put such a helper script in my BASH environment on the client systems. Over the years, that became complicated to manage so I changed the structure. Now I put the scrips in the system specific config directory, the one where my programs look to find out, eg, the actual path or API key or something.
In the directory for each computer, my development one include, there is a directory called terminalAndOperation. Each has a well-known file named 'initTerminal'. Depending on when I last worked on the project, that file might be an old, simple one or a new, cool one that includes, for example, boilerplate reference to a common file at the root of the configs directory so I do not have to repeat things that are, well, common to all the environments.
The main things I have figured out are, 1) use a script to contain all the stuff I know I will not remember, 2) structure projects so that there is a script for each environment I have to work on, 3) be rigorous in making all that structure the same because I know I will not remember where the script is if it's different, 4) use aliases (also, btw, listed in my .bash_profile) to execute them so I am not confused and 5) make sure to write all the fussy details in those scripts and keep them up to date and refactored frequently.
This has allowed me to keep being a productive programmer long into senility. My wife has to remind me about everything but, when my colleagues need to know fussy details, they ask me and I can easily find the answer.